When I hang out with my girlfriends, getting a drink is always my last idea for a get-together. I do enjoy a glass of wine with dinner, but there are so many other things that I enjoy more than sitting and drinking.
For example, I get together weekly with my best friend from college. In the 19 years that we’ve been friends, we’ve had drinks together maybe 10 times – probably less! And when I recently got a beer in my hometown with one of my best childhood girlfriends, we realized it was our first drink together in 5 years.
Ha, I know it sounds boring, but we most certainly are not. Here is a list of what we do instead of throwing back cocktails:
- Walk and talk: When we haven’t seen each other in a while and have a lot to catch up on, we lace up (and in the winter – bundle up). We’ll and go for a long walk or sometimes we run. It’s really the best — you get fresh air, exercise and lots of time to talk.
- Tea time: Especially in the winter, we love staying cozy at home and drinking a delicious wellness tea by the fire for a healthy buzz. Add a stack of magazines to browse, and you can spend the entire day.
- Long lunch: Last week, I met two friends for an impromptu lunch. It was so relaxing and enjoyable. Lunch is the meal I most often miss and this made me realize that I need to go out for a sit down lunch more often!
- Shop till we drop: In our 20s, I’d shop with my girlfriends from work ALL THE TIME. It was actually a problem, but now that we are in our 30s and have kids, we NEVER go shopping. So when we do, not only is it necessary, helpful and fun, it is nostalgic and makes me feel like I’m in my 20s again.
- Beauty rituals: These days, spare time is limited and getting a manicure and pedicure, while necessary, often gets deprioritized. Going to the spa with a friend is both productive and relaxing.
- Activism: This year, I’m planning to spend more time rallying girlfriends to call our legislatures and write thanks you cards to the companies who are leading the charge on clean energy, family leave, human rights and healthcare initiatives. Although, I may occasionally pull out the wine for this one 🙂
Of course it is always fun to try out a cool new bar or restaurant. But if you can replace a few of your boozy dates with other activities this year, you’ll feel healthier and happier for it. And maybe we can change the world too.
Do you have a date idea that doesn’t involve drinking? Please share in the comments below!